What does it take to be your slave?

I’ve been getting so many e-mails lately that ask this question. If you want a response from Me, here’s what you need to know:

1. First impressions are important. Address Me as Lady Fyre or Goddess. If you just skip straight to the part where you tell Me what you want, I’m going to assume that you’re selfish & careless. Your “service” to Me will most-likely also be selfish & careless. These e-mails usually go into the trash bin.

2. Keep it short & get to the point. Long, flowery, demure e-mails: think about how much of My time is being consumed just by reading your first e-mail to Me. I will assume that you are going to eat up A LOT of My precious time in the future, and I’m usually grumpy by the time I manage to figure out what your point is.

If you’ve made it this far, and still want to serve:

How can you serve Me? Think about this before you contact Me.

1. I can get compliments from anywhere, so if you plan to send Me copious e-mails filled with compliments in exchange for My attention… just don’t.

2. You MUST be willing & able to spend money. This is a cold hard fact of online domination. Without your money, you are of absolutely no use to Me. No, I am not a “findom.” I do, however, expect to be paid for My services. Cam, phone, clips, custom clips, gifts, tributes: all ways to spend on Me.

Note: Being spoiled puts Me in a good mood. My loyal pets who are consistent with their tributes or who spoil Me are usually spoiled in return– with extra time & attention, or with treats.

The 3rd Dimension

The 3rd Dimension
A few fans have requested that I try to post more blogs. And a recent tweet prompted me to write a little about myself.

Some weird/ little-known facts about me:

I love cooking & eating. I would much rather spend extra cash on garlic-stuffed olives, cayenne pepper mangoes, and ingredients for some new dish I’ve been wanting to make than on clothes or make-up. My current favorite things to make are pickled red onions, garlic sauce, and anything with cheese on it. I tend to forgo the Southern, American cuisine of my childhood in favor of Mexican, Indian, Moroccan, and whatever else I can make up out of my ever-growing spice collection. Consequently, I often work out 6 days/week. 🙂 If I wasn’t so busy, I would love to have a food blog with lots of obnoxiously gorgeous photos.

I have a Bachelor of Science Degree. I earned it several years ago, and though I don’t actively use it, I am grateful for my college education. I will never forget the most important thing I learned: HOW to think.

I prefer hiking, road trips & sight-seeing in national parks or weird, small towns to vacationing on beaches or exotic places (though I would love to do a tropical vacation some day). My imagination can stretch when I’m on the road, and I like to imagine what life is like in each little town I pass.

Green landscape & water make my heart happy.

I much prefer fruity to chocolate or other rich flavors. I love jellybeans, Sour Patch Kids, and those things they used to call “Shock Tarts.” If I wasn’t on a perpetual low-carb diet, I would eat those suckers until my tongue hurts. (Shhhh… I often do that anyway, diet be damned.)

I love clothes shopping, though I don’t buy even 5% of what I try on. Most places don’t make nice clothes for tiny adults.

I’m smaller than most people think. I’m barely 5 feet tall, I weigh about 100 lbs, I wear a size 5 shoe, and though I’m kinda “curvy,” I wear anywhere from a size 0 to size 4 in jeans/dresses. I even have to cut about 4 inches off “petite” jeans.

I set at least 4 alarms on my phone each night to make sure I don’t oversleep. The most important thing I have to do in the morning these days is yoga, but I still set 4 alarms. I like waking up early & doing 1-2 hours of work on the computer while I drink coffee. Sleeping in makes me cranky because I feel like I’ve wasted the day.

I love pantyhose & high heels. I don’t often get a chance to wear them other than when I’m filming, since I work from home & spend a lot of time on the computer. Still, I just love pantyhose & high heels. I feel so sensual when I wear them. I also love lingerie. Again, I usually only wear it when filming, but I love the way that a silky piece of lingerie feels against my skin.

Things I love but don’t often have time for these days: poetry, forensic novels, writing, knitting, & designing clothes. If I could choose any job in the world, other than what I do now (I love my job), I would make handmade clothes & accessories. Sometimes I have to take a break from life & just create something, and I’ve been known to spend days upon days creating a gift for a friend or relative.

Hope you enjoyed my random little blog post. I don’t have an “Ask” profile, but you’re always welcome to ask me questions on Twitter.

Custom Videos vs. Video Requests

NOTE: I originally posted this on tumblr in 2015. I’m moving all of my tumblr posts here, so some of this content appears as new but was written years ago.

Video Requests vs. Custom Videos
Today seems to be Request a Free Custom Video Day, with several fans trying to conjure up something which- in my mind- doesn’t really exist, so I thought I should clarify the difference between a “request” & a “custom”.

Request: asking me to make & post a certain type of video

Ex: “Can you please make more CEI videos?”

Custom: paying my set price to make a specific video suited to your fetishes

Ex: “Would love to see a video where you do _____, say _____, wear ____, and call me _____.”

Requests:

I rarely do requests. It’s not that I don’t love & appreciate you guys. It’s that, despite loving what I do, if I didn’t make money from it, I couldn’t keep doing it. I am quite familiar with what sells well for me, and I’m also familiar with what types of videos I love to make. If you see lots of (insert type) videos, that means they sell well for me and/or I love to make them. Yes, I sometimes make videos just for the fun of it.

If you see in my store a distinct lack of videos covering your fetish, that probably means they don’t sell well for me or they’re not among my favorite types. (The exception is the types I haven’t yet tried.) If you request a video that I’m 90% sure won’t make me any money, I will politely refer you to my custom request form.

But don’t let that stop you from politely making a request. Sometimes I forget, for example, that I haven’t made a leg fetish video in 3 months. I’m a busy bee & some things just slip my mind. So much kink, so little time!

Customs:

I love making custom videos. My customers come up with some creative ideas, and I love fulfilling fantasies.

…I also love seeing a return on my investment.

Making videos is an investment in my time, energy & often money. When I come up with my own ideas for my store, I invest my time & energy into making something fun that I calculate (based on research & sales numbers) will provide me with a return. It’s like educated gambling. When you order a custom clip, you’re the one making the investment (or gambling, if you will). I’ve made lots of custom videos that didn’t re-sell at all/ well. Yet (to my knowledge) I’ve never had an unhappy “custom” customer, so it’s a pretty safe bet on your part.

That said, sometimes I tweet that I’m accepting video “requests”. Sometimes (gasp!) I actually run out of ideas, am all caught up on customs, and am interested to know what my fans have bought from me & want to see more of. I’m then willing to drink from the well-spring of your kinky thoughts. But if I politely refer you to my custom request form, please don’t take offense. It doesn’t mean I think your idea is bad or silly. (I actually find most fetishes to be interesting.) If you’re a confirmed customer (you’ve spent money on my clips- preferably consistently), I am much more likely to fulfill your request.

Thanks for being respectful of my time & talent, and thanks for making my job awesome.

New Producers, Originality & Competition

NOTE: I originally posted this on tumblr in 2016. I’m moving all of my tumblr posts here, so some of this content appears as new but was written years ago.

I’m relatively “new” myself compared to a lot of people in the industry, and I’m not qualified to give advice on much, but I’ve learned a few things along the way. I’ve seen a lot of people being called out on Twitter recently for copying others’ clips. I’ve thought about doing it myself a few times, but what stopped me is knowing that customers love to order the exact same clip from multiple ladies. I also remember how many times I’m ready to post a clip, search for my proposed clip title on C4S only to find 1-100 people who have already used the title or filmed the idea. In fact, a long time ago I complained on Twitter about three girls stealing my idea & title within one week, I mentioned the title, and a veteran model linked me to her clip from 2 years prior… with the same title. Oops. Now I see new clips with that title or theme pop up at least once a week. I know some people totally copy on purpose, and I’m not admonishing anyone for how they deal with that.

If you’ve been around a while, you’ve likely experienced someone copying you, whether intentionally or not. Or you’ve been the first to do a certain type of clip then watched in dismay as hoards of ladies caught on. Or you’re among the first to start filming using a certain method, or angle, or using a certain lighting technique. Or you’re the first to use special effects in a particular way. Then… they… come. (And yes, I’m sure I’ve been a “they” to many.) Even though I’ve only been making clips for a few years, I’ve had the experience of filming in a certain “category” before it even existed on C4S (or another site). Then someone made an actual category for it. Now it’s flooded. All that is a bit hard to take.

Ask yourself what YOU did when you first started. Now, if you were among the first dozen people to start making clips, this probably doesn’t apply to you. But for everyone else, the basic method of learning how to make clips is to look around & see what others are doing, add in what interests you, put your own spin on it, and develop your persona from there. Or you already have your persona, you look around to see what interests you, etc.

Think about Starbucks, whose first store opened in 1971. Seattle’s Best actually opened in 1970, and moved to Seattle in 1972. By 1983, both companies were expanding. The Coffee Beanery opened in 1976. Caribou Coffee opened in 1992. Dunkin’ Doughnuts opened in 1950, and I remember when they started offering iced coffee concoctions. Now they sell their coffee beans in stores. There are so many companies doing pretty much the same thing. They all started in different places with different offerings, they evolved differently. But all of those companies have looked around to see what the competition is doing & have either copied it outright, or with their own spin, & they’ve all done what they can to “one-up” the others. Some will succeed, some won’t, and creativity/ innovation isn’t always the deciding factor. A friend of mine likes to remind me that most businesses operate this way. It’s just in the industries which pride themselves on creativity, and which is comprised largely of independent contractors (like our industry), where people get so personally offended.

Despite all that realism, practicality & business sense, here’s a few words of advice to producers just starting out:

1. Just because you WANT to be a certain personality doesn’t mean you’re going to succeed at it. Your real personality, your talents, your looks, and your customers will largely determine at what you’re successful. This is a touchy topic. Not everyone can be “brat girl”, not everyone can be a “porn star” & not everyone can be a “posh lady”. It makes sense to dip your toes in where you’re interested, but you’ll quickly find your place if you listen to your heart & your customers (read: your sales stats). You’ll do yourself a great disservice trying to emulate someone else simply based on your desires, and rigidly sticking to that idea despite evidence showing that you’re just not that person. Embrace what is unique about you. Feed it & watch it grow. I’ve had conversations with more than one producer who is frustrated about what her customers want from her. I’ve experienced that myself. So then it becomes a matter of finding a balance between what you like to do & what actually makes you money. That can take a long time, and you’ll find out that it’s ever-evolving. My first clips were a mess. I tried being a brat girl, and it was hilarious. Props to those who do it well. Sure, I’m bratty in some ways, and I don’t take crap from people, but I’m just not a brat girl. Now I’ve developed a persona that is super close to who I really am when I’m not on camera, and not having to pretend to be something else entirely has really worked out for me. I think my customers recognize that too.

2. Be as original as you can be in a world full of copycats. It’s actually kind of hard to be completely original. Pretty much everything has been done. Even if you’re being creative about your methods or your stories, you’re still calling on stock tropes or even well-known TV or movie icons. We are what we know. We do what we know. What we know is known by others, and has usually been re-done by others. But still, you have to try. And you CAN make original content. I think of some of my most creative clips, and I can probably identify influences if I take a hard look, but I doubt I’ve done anything that’s exactly what another person has done (some customs excluded). I probably have some completely original clips, but I don’t spend much time examining it. My clip filming method used to be this: come up with an idea, search around to see if it’s been done to some degree, then go back to the drawing board 75% of the time. It was time-consuming & discouraging. Now I come up with an idea & film it. Then I come up with a clip title & search for that. Sometimes I find out later that my idea was done before, but oh well. I can only control so much. Maybe somewhere in the back of my mind I stored an image or phrase I saw online or on another store’s listing, but I know that I’ve done all that I can to be original.

3. Try not to make enemies. I have met some amazing ladies (and guys) through my work in this industry. So many people have helped me get where I am, and I help other people too. We’re all competition to varying degrees, and we can’t give it all away, but we help where we’re comfortable helping, and we want to see one another succeed. I’m sure I have some kind of reputation among other producers, but I have no idea what it is, and it’s really not any of my business. All I know is that I try to be as nice to other people as possible, I accept other people for who they are (whether or not I choose to continue to work with/ communicate with them), and I try not to make enemies. Other people in this industry can be friends & they can be resources. It’s hard to come back from developing a bad reputation. Some day you might need advice, or you might want to work with other people. You might be a very independent person but you still exist in a world of other people, and you’re in an industry where your reputation matters. Also, respect those who have come before you. Sure, you can try to do it better, and maybe you’ll succeed, but have some respect for what they’ve accomplished, their vast knowledge & experience, & how they’ve shaped this industry.

In the end we’re all here to have fun & make money. The same basic rules of humanity, ethics & business apply here as everywhere else.


“Lady Fyre is a great Domme. Stunning body, irresistible voice, sexy wardrobe. Have purchased custom videos & been 100% satisfied.” -Ron Mexico

“…Her secret weapon is Her voice which runs directly into your soul forcing [you] to obey. It’s one of the sexiest voices I ever heard, and She knows how to use it very well. When She talks, She can give you the ultimate pleasure and She can destroy your whole existence.” -Moe H.

“Unlike many, Lady Fyre takes the time to find out exactly what you want, and then gives you exactly what you need. She has the most ravishing red hair and an amazing body, but it’s Her teasing hypnotic voice that will never allow you to leave Her. I have been ensnared in Her trap for over four months and it will be a very long time before I am set free.” -sissy